Direction 1: Beg of God a clean heart, renewed and sanctified by saving grace; all other endeavours do but palliate a cure: the root of this is deep in your nature; O get that mortified, “out of the heart proceed fornication, adulteries” (Matthew 15:19).”Abstain from fleshly lusts…having your conversation honest” (1Peter 2:11-12). The lust must first be subdued, before the conversation be honest.
Direction 2: Walk in the fear of God all the day long, and in the sense of his omniscient eye that is ever upon you, this kept Joseph from this sin, “how can I do this wickedness and sin against God” (Genesis 39:9). Consider, the darkness hides not from him, but shines as the light. If you could find a place where the eye of God would not discover you, it were somewhat: you dare not to act this wickedness in the presence of a child, and will you adventure to commit it before the face of God? See that argument, “and why will you, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger? For the ways of man are before the eyes of the Lord, and he ponders all his goings” (Proverbs 5:20-21).
Direction 3: Avoid lewd company, and the society of unclean persons; they are but panders for lust. Evil communications corrupts good manners. The tongues of sinners do cast fire-balls into the hearts of each other, which the corruption within is easily kindled and inflamed by.
Direction 4: Exercise to your calling diligently; it will be an excellent means of preventing this sin. It is a good observation that one had, that Israel were safer in the brick-kilns Egypt, than in the plains of Moab. “And it came to pass in the even-tide, that David arose from off his bed, and walked on the roof of the king’s house” (2Samuel 11:2), and this was the occasion of his fall. See also 1Timothy 5:11, 13.
Direction 5: Put a restraint upon your appetite: feed not to excess. Fulness of bread and idleness were the sins of Sodom, that occasioned such an exuberancy of lust. “They are like fed horses, every one neighing after his neighbour’s wife. When I had fed them to the full, then they committed adultery, and assembled themselves by troops in the harlots houses” (Jeremiah 5:7-8). This is a sad requital of the bounty of God, of giving us the enjoyment of the creatures, to make them fuel to lust, and instruments of sin.
Direction 6: Make choice of a meet yoke-fellow, and delight in her you have chosen. This is a lawful remedy (1Corinthians 7:9). God ordained it (Genesis 2:21). But herein appears the corruption of nature, that men delight to tread by-paths, and forsake the way which God has appointed. Stolen waters are sweeter to them than those waters they might lawfully drink at their own fountain.: but withal know, it is not the having, but the delighting in a lawful wife, as God requires you to do, that you must be a fence against this sin. So Solomon, “let her breasts satisfy you at all times, and be ravished always with her love” (Proverbs 5:19).
Direction 7: Take heed of running on in a course of sin, especially superstition and idolatry: in which cases, and as a punishment of which evils God often gives up men to these vile affections, “who changed the truth of God into a lie; worshipped, and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed forever, Amen…For this cause God gave them up to vile affections” (Romans 1:25, 16). They that defile their souls by idolatrous practices, God suffers, as a just recompense, their bodies also to be defiled with uncleanness, that so their ruin may be hastened. Let the admirers of traditions beware of such a judicial tradition as this is. Woe to him that is thus delivered by the hand of an angry God! No punishment in the world like this, when God punishes sin with sin: when he shall those common notices of conscience to be quenched, and all restraints to be moved out of the way of sin, it will not be long before that sinner comes to his own place.